Three’s A Crowd: Why Trio Friendships Might Be A Disaster Waiting To Happen
Who knows, three might be your lucky number
- written by Joy Onu
- 5 min read
- 24 Mar, 2025
InsecureIt’s a tale as old as time, the messiest friendships often begin within groups of three, and even with relationships, it is a no-brainer why three is a crowd. The dynamics that come with trio friendships could either be extra special or a recipe for disaster. They say good things come in threes, and when it comes to friendships, that couldn’t be more true—or could it? Trio friendships are a fascinating mix of fun, chaos, and the occasional third-wheel dilemma.
Whether you're part of an unbreakable trio or trying to navigate the ups and downs of being one of three, there's no denying that these friendships are special, and on the other hand, they are quite tricky. It’s like that one time in 2024 when businesswoman BO Hairs shaded her ex-besties, Guinness World Record chef Hilda Baci and influencer Ama Reginald for pushing her out of their trio friendship. Their fallout was the typical run-of-the-mill fallout that is occasionally tied to trio friendship, where the trio somehow becomes a duo.
So, what makes trio friendships a disaster, and what makes them thrive? And why do they sometimes feel like an emotional rollercoaster? Let’s get into it.
Trio Friendships Aren’t All That Bad When Done Right
Don’t get it twisted, trio friendships might be a disaster waiting to happen, but they also have that special charm that sets them apart from larger groups or classic bestie duos. There’s just something about a healthy friendship trio that makes you want one. They are the ultimate clique when done right, and here’s why:
1. Trio Friendships Are The Perfect Balance
A trio friendship offers a dynamic that’s just right, it’s almost as though you get the intimacy of a close friendship while still having an extra person to bring in fresh energy. There’s never a boring moment when there are three people in a room, that way there are a variety of personalities to always keep things fun, and light.
2. Triple the Fun, Triple the Support
Whether you need hype before a big event, a reality check on your latest dating disaster, or even someone to binge-watch Love Is Blind with. A trio has you covered from every angle. The great thing about being in a trio friendship is that you ultimately have two support systems instead of one, so no matter how you cut the cake, you’re one lucky bird.
3. Pop Culture Proven
Some of the most iconic friendships in TV, movies, and music come in threes: The Bold Type TV series had Kat, Jane, and Sutton, and if you’re ever in need of a guide on how to do trio friendships right. Then there’s Harry, Ron, and Hermione; Destiny’s Child; and even the Powerpuff Girls. If they can make it work, so can you!
The Flip Side: Why Trio Friendships Can Be Tricky
Here comes the ugly truth about trio friendships, because as much as trio friendships have their perks, they’re not always smooth sailing. It tends to leave certain individuals feeling like the odd one out. It is research-certified that this happens, so you’re not alone. Here’s why trios can get complicated:
1. The Third-Wheel Syndrome
Sometimes, two friends naturally bond more, leaving the third feeling left out. This isn’t always intentional, but it happens more often than we’d like to admit. Case in point, the Hilda Baci and co situation which was reported by various media outlets in case you want the 411.
2. Decision-Making Dilemmas
Picking a restaurant? Planning a trip? If two friends agree, the third might feel like their opinion matters less. And let’s not even talk about the classic “who sits in the front seat” debate! It truly is the biggest cause of drama, especially when little things turn into gigantic problems that cause seeds of chaos among the friend group.
3. Group Chat Drama
Trust me when I say group chat drama causes more chaos than we care to admit. When one person gets left out of inside jokes or separate plans, things can spiral into awkwardness fast.
How to Keep Your Trio Friendship Drama-Free
The good news? Trio friendships can thrive, with a little effort and a lot of communication. Here’s how:
1. Make Sure Everyone Feels Included
Make sure no one is feeling left out, even when you’re doing something as minute as walking on the street, leave no woman or man behind. Even small things, like asking all three friends for input when making plans, can prevent unintentional exclusion. A simple “What do you think?” can go a long way!
2. Strengthen One-on-One Bonds
The best trio friendships are built on strong individual connections. You don’t have to be equally close with both, but having separate inside jokes and shared experiences with each person helps prevent a two-against-one dynamic.
3. Communicate Openly (And Honestly)
Feeling left out? Say something. Notice tension? Talk it out before it becomes a bigger issue. The best friendships, trios included, more times than not, thrive on honesty and mutual respect.
When to Walk Away from a Trio Friendship
Not all friendships are meant to last forever. If your trio starts feeling more like a source of stress than support, it may be time to step back. These are the signs that it might not be working: You always feel like an outsider, there’s constant tension or drama, and you’re putting in more effort than you’re getting back.
Instead of forcing things, consider a graceful exit, especially after you’ve made an effort to communicate and your worries are met on deaf ears. So, whether that means seeing them less frequently or focusing on friendships that bring you joy, sometimes, you just need to go for the less volatile option for the sake of your peace of mind.